How to forgive an affair

Forgiveness is not about trying to control or change someone that might have hurt you, rather it is about no longer living your life as a victim. You begin to focus on removing all the negative feelings that are in your body and replacing those with positive feelings that can move you forward in your life.

Forgiveness is also not about saying it is o.k. for the person to have hurt you, it is about you no longer hurting yourself with the bad feelings, instead it means replacing those feelings with a sense of hope for the future that includes feelings of happiness and peace.

If you hurt others, and you are at the stage where you understand your mistake, then you can approach the person you hurt and ask for forgiveness. However, if the person doesn’t want to hear from you that is their right, so just move on.

Below I will mention some things you can do the make amends for past bad behaviour. Right now you can forgive yourself and release the guilt and other bad feelings for hurting the other person.

Learning how to forgive an affair will take time. Whether you are the perpetrator or the victim forgiveness takes practice. Be kind and patient with yourself as you move forward. Your personality will dictate how you forgive and this article looks at some of the different approaches to forgiveness. Click here for more.....

As you start you may find that you have a number of feelings including depression and revenge. Acknowledge those feelings, but don’t stay in that place, especially since you have likely been in that place for quite some time.

Individuals respond to pain in different ways some internalize the pain in the form of depression or sadness others externalize the pain as anger or vengeance. These emotions are negative and have harmful effects on the body.

During the process always keep the goal in sight of living a more aware and compassionate life. You can still have great fun and be compassionate. You are now just living a life of integrity that allows you to be more aware of your actions

on other people’s feelings. Leave the guilt and hurt feelings behind. Embrace the hope of the future.

If you hurt others you will now be in a position to forgive yourself after making an attempt to make amends, rather than be in a place of denial.

Denial is a very powerful emotion that renders you blind to all your faults and leaves you in a place where positive growth is near to impossible.

Deniers walk through life as if all is well leaving victim after victim in their trail. Life is a big circle and eventually it will come back to you. Forgiveness opens the door for change.

If you were the one that was hurt, you may try to communicate with the person that hurt you. You are doing this only, because you now understand that forgiveness is for you to move on.

If you tell the perpetrator that you forgive them for their negative behaviour towards you, and all you receive is a blank stare or silence, know that you have done all that you can.

You have just come face to face with denial and the other person may never admit to doing anything that hurt you or maybe one day when the time is right they may also ask for your forgiveness. However, your act of moving forward is more important than the other person’s inertia or lack of movement.

In addition as the victim, take a good look at the people you are attracting into your life, since they reflect your deepest inner feelings. Could you be in denial about your true needs in a relationship?

Did you turn a blind eye to the possibilities of infidelity just to be married? Now is a good time to explore you. Why are you the victim?

Here are just a few things you can do to remove some of the negative effects out of your body as you go through the forgiveness process:
1. Speak to your therapist.
2. Talk to your minister, priest or spiritual advisor
3. Speak to a non judgmental or compassionate friend.

If you find that what you did is so hurtful or very harmful to yourself, family or friends then asking God, the Universe, Divine Flow or whatever you consider to be a higher power can also help.

Some of you might find guided mediation, visualization, imagery or hypnosis helpful tools to show you learn how to forgive an affair, especially if you are a very private person. These methods focus on your subconscious mind or the part of you that holds deeply embedded negative memories or repressed emotions. Memories that might be holding you back from being the person you want to be today.

The subconscious does not know the difference between fantasy and reality. For you that means if you are the victim or the perpetrator of harm, you can change how your body responds to the memories by giving the subconscious new healing information.

The information will be integrated into your body and accepted as real and can replace the old negative memories. Over time the body will adapt this new information and change allowing the body to heal from the past.

Guided mediation, visualization and hypnosis are powerful because they bypass the conscious mind that might be telling you that forgiveness doesn’t work.

Your conscious mind is the part of you that is logical and knows the difference between fantasy and reality. It will not accept words of wisdom or positive suggestions. We all use the conscious mind when we confide in a friend, spiritual advisor, or some other compassionate person.

Hypnosis might be one of the most powerful ways to create change when all other methods have been explored. Learning how to forgive an affair can be exciting as you discover new aspects of your mind with hypnosis.

The procedure puts the conscious mind to sleep (You are not actually sleeping, rather your conscious mind is put to the side where it is less critical or judgmental.) long enough to give the more receptive subconscious mind a chance to change in a positive manner. To learn how hypnosis can help you please click here.

Using hypnosis takes 21 days to feel a true shift in your personality as you learn how to forgive an affair. If you have been living with hurt or guilt for a long time, then this commitment of effort will not feel too great.

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